CHARMAIN NAIDOO: Men need to step up and stop abuse before it happens
'I was startled by how many men came on the air pleading with women to cover themselves up, to avoid provocation because “men will be men”. Really?'
My therapist once asked me if there’d been abuse in my family when I was a child. I was 22, and utterly dumbstruck. It was not just that this man to whom I was pouring out my very young adult heart would ask such a question, I wondered what it was about me that would make him ask it. I have always thought, and still do, that I had an extremely happy childhood – one filled with love and happiness and joy. And a sense of safety. My parents protected me from the horror and the dangers out there.