Are you the person your colleagues turn to for support or advice? Here are some ways you can take care of yourself while taking care of others. A "toxic handler" is someone who voluntarily shoulders the feelings of their colleagues, a critical but often difficult job. If that sounds familiar, here are some actions you can take to keep playing your valuable role in a sustainable way. 1 Reduce symptoms of stress: turn to tried and true methods for stress relief such as meditation, exercise, enough sleep and healthful eating. 2 Pick your battles: ask yourself where you’ll have the most impact. Who is likely to be fine without your help? In which situations have you not even made a dent, despite your best efforts? 3 Learn to say no: you can make it clear that you feel for your colleague while telling them you’re not in a position to be most helpful to them right now. Refer them to another person or resources for support. 4 Let go of the guilt: if you’re stepping in repeatedly, you’re no...

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